Nice girls finish last (if they finish at all)
Nice.
It’s such a namby-pamby, wishy-washy way to compliment someone. It’s what you say about someone when that person has no other distinguishing traits.
I don’t want to think of how many of my yearbook inscriptions described me as “nice”.
So nice.
Very nice.
Nicest girl I know.
Bleah. Just come out with it and say “BORING”.
In retrospect, I prefer the elementary school yearbook inscriptions that commented mainly on my brain power. I’ll take “straight-A student” over “nice” any day. Because straight A’s might actually get me somewhere. Being nice never did.
That’s not to say that being a prick is the optimal way to make friends and influence people. I’m pretty sure Dale Carnegie would caution against that approach.
But diminishing your own thoughts and opinions (sometimes by not even having the courage to voice them) is not the way to make – and keep – friends. Very few people want to be around a yes-man/yes-woman – and those who do are almost as insecure as their entourage.
Given that I freely assert my sometimes-unpopular opinions (Crocodile Hunter, anyone?) both online and off, I’m now pleasantly surprised when someone – like Lori at Spinning Yellow – describes me as nice and even gives me an award to document that niceness I thought I’d shed long ago.
Thank you, Lori. It’s because I now feel as if I have more to offer than mere niceness that I can graciously accept “nice” as the compliment it should be.
September 17th, 2007 at 4:24 am
Your welcome! You know I feel similarly about the N word. Yes, you do have more to offer, and you do it in a, well, nice way. You deserve to be recognized for that.
September 17th, 2007 at 4:59 am
Nah, I think nice is nice – the old catch-more-flies-with-honey thing.
That said, I’m a confirmed crank and someone gave me a “nice” award too…
Welcome to the club!
September 17th, 2007 at 7:11 am
I think nice is a great compliment! It’s really so hard to find really NICE people these days – most are fake nice. Not the same.
When I first started getting to know my fiance, I always said he was the nicest person I’d ever met. And he was. And IS. And now I’m marrying him. I think that’s a pretty good compliment.
September 17th, 2007 at 7:47 am
Nice post.
September 17th, 2007 at 7:52 am
Touche, Prescott.
September 17th, 2007 at 9:16 am
For a second there, I thought the title of this post referred to fantasy football results yesterday! :p
September 17th, 2007 at 9:21 am
Yeah, you wiped the floor with me. Fucking Cincinnati Bungles.
September 17th, 2007 at 9:48 am
I think you should print out your button and wear it to the rec center in case you run into any more cranky old ladies.
September 17th, 2007 at 10:14 am
If you don’t like the “N” word can we describe you as “su-pah sweet”?
Or doe that sound too sugary?
September 17th, 2007 at 1:19 pm
Well, I don’t think you’re nice at all. Witty, fabulous, succinct, one-hot-mama, definitely, but “nice” – meh.
September 17th, 2007 at 2:02 pm
Aw that is nice! In the most unvanilla, coolest sense of the term.
September 17th, 2007 at 4:02 pm
Congrats!
I think I know what you mean. It seems to be much more palatable to be called “nice” when you know you have it in you to be anything but.
Again, congrats.
September 17th, 2007 at 5:15 pm
Oh, WHAT? But not “Hottest Mommy Blogger?”
Put ‘em up, sister.
Just kidding, kidding, kidding.
September 17th, 2007 at 6:56 pm
Nice is better than f*ckwad, but only slightly so.
September 17th, 2007 at 11:10 pm
LOL! I used a lot of the same words in my post today (namby-pamby in particular), but to a different effect. I was arguing that nice goes along with the most powerful and creative people I’ve ever met.
September 18th, 2007 at 1:08 am
I also think nice is boring. It’s a general term which isn’t pointing out something specific.
September 18th, 2007 at 7:08 pm
I think nice is better than nothing. I always consider it as something positive.