It is easier to get forgiveness later than permission now
“Are you okay?”
Withering-yet-amused look. “I don’t like the plans you made. But I understand why you made them, because you knew that if you asked, I’d say no. So you went ahead and made them anyway, and now I just have to live with them.”
Sheepish look. “Yeah.”
September 2nd, 2007 at 1:33 pm
OH! So, who made the plans and who doesn’t approve?
And what are the plans??
September 2nd, 2007 at 1:37 pm
OH, my husband LIVES by this philosophy, and it drives me crazy sometimes!!! I try to remind him “if you think you’re going to need forgiveness later, you probably shouldn’t do it!!”
September 2nd, 2007 at 8:50 pm
After I once went the round of high-level meetings (death by committe, as I like to call it) at the hospital where I work to get approval for something that was really very small, I adopted the philosophy that it is better to ask forgiveness than ask permission too.
Sometimes.
September 2nd, 2007 at 8:52 pm
Oh, the suspense! Who did what and why?
September 3rd, 2007 at 9:56 am
Oh, I did this all the time to John. I’m pretty sure it’s written in our marriage somewhere that I have the Right. Like he has the Right to watch the Lions uninterrupted.
September 4th, 2007 at 10:49 am
We just had this conversation this past weekend. I told W that it was inconsiderate and that I deserved a heads-up. He told me he would be happy to do so once I stopped being disappointed and putting a guilt trip on him so that he is ultimately unhappy if he proceeds with his plans. I think we are at an empasse until one of us decides to change our reaction. Likely, it will be me.
September 5th, 2007 at 5:21 am
Uh-oh, hope this isn’t about the fifth??
Do tell…
September 5th, 2007 at 9:30 am
this is status quo at work.