Comments on: Some things are sacred http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/ A first-grader destined for a career as a lawyer, a pre-schooler whose screams can shatter glass, a bouncing baby boy who evaded an IUD, a man who can drink his weight in Natty Light, and a woman who has long since given up caring about the condition of her kitchen floor. Mon, 05 Apr 2010 11:10:53 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jenifer http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/comment-page-1/#comment-18011 Jenifer Thu, 21 Dec 2006 23:06:20 +0000 http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/#comment-18011 Well, my husband does not call my Mom, "mom". However, my two step sons do call my Mom "gram" which is what my daughter calls her. Speaking of step children. How do you feel about step children calling their step parents Mom and Dad? My step children call me by my first name, but since I am significantly younger than my husband, making my oldest step son only 12 years younger than myself, it would seem really weird.... Well, my husband does not call my Mom, “mom”. However, my two step sons do call my Mom “gram” which is what my daughter calls her.

Speaking of step children. How do you feel about step children calling their step parents Mom and Dad? My step children call me by my first name, but since I am significantly younger than my husband, making my oldest step son only 12 years younger than myself, it would seem really weird….

]]> By: Pendullum http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/comment-page-1/#comment-17726 Pendullum Wed, 20 Dec 2006 12:37:36 +0000 http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/#comment-17726 My husband's parents divorced 32 years ago... My MIL has just lost her husband... And it was strange as everyone kept asking my husband what it was like to lose his 'step-dad'... This man that died was not his father... He came into my husband's life after we were married and I was pregnant. It was hard enough to give him a monikker of some grandfatherly type of name for our daughter... But stepdad was never in the cards.. This man had only been involved in the periferal of our family in the last seven years...and yet people kept on referring to him as my husband's step dad... It drove him crazy... Absolutely crazy... My husband’s parents divorced 32 years ago…

My MIL has just lost her husband…

And it was strange as everyone kept asking my husband what it was like to lose his ’step-dad’…

This man that died was not his father… He came into my husband’s life after we were married and I was pregnant. It was hard enough to give him a monikker of some grandfatherly type of name for our daughter…

But stepdad was never in the cards..

This man had only been involved in the periferal of our family in the last seven years…and yet people kept on referring to him as my husband’s step dad…
It drove him crazy…
Absolutely crazy…

]]> By: flowers http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/comment-page-1/#comment-17674 flowers Wed, 20 Dec 2006 05:27:39 +0000 http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/#comment-17674 I've had this conversation before with friends. Something we noticed among our individual circles (regardless of what we called our ILs - which was mixed in the group), there was a lower incidence of divorce in the families that called ILs Mom and Dad. That's not to imply that if you don't call your ILs mom and dad that you're on your way to divorce. I wonder if the titles you call them have anything to do with the stage of life you were in when you met your spouse. I was young (hs) when I started dating dh. I called my ILs Mr. and Mrs. X then. When we got married, it seemed way too formal. It took a year or so to get comfortable using Mom and Dad, but it's second nature now. Dh also calls my parents Mom and Dad. My parents each called their ILs Mom and Dad, too. Interesting reading. I’ve had this conversation before with friends. Something we noticed among our individual circles (regardless of what we called our ILs – which was mixed in the group), there was a lower incidence of divorce in the families that called ILs Mom and Dad. That’s not to imply that if you don’t call your ILs mom and dad that you’re on your way to divorce. I wonder if the titles you call them have anything to do with the stage of life you were in when you met your spouse. I was young (hs) when I started dating dh. I called my ILs Mr. and Mrs. X then. When we got married, it seemed way too formal. It took a year or so to get comfortable using Mom and Dad, but it’s second nature now. Dh also calls my parents Mom and Dad. My parents each called their ILs Mom and Dad, too. Interesting reading.

]]> By: jen http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/comment-page-1/#comment-17673 jen Wed, 20 Dec 2006 05:15:30 +0000 http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/#comment-17673 yup. totally. i couldn't even imagine it. yup. totally. i couldn’t even imagine it.

]]> By: Mom101 http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/comment-page-1/#comment-17655 Mom101 Wed, 20 Dec 2006 02:39:12 +0000 http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/#comment-17655 You know, it's funny I was just thinking the very same thing. I think spurred on by a post of Kristen's where she called her MIL "mom." We never called friends of the family Aunt/Uncle either. I suppose relations are a sacred thing in my family. They aren't titles you can earn through marriage or even affection. You know, it’s funny I was just thinking the very same thing. I think spurred on by a post of Kristen’s where she called her MIL “mom.” We never called friends of the family Aunt/Uncle either. I suppose relations are a sacred thing in my family. They aren’t titles you can earn through marriage or even affection.

]]> By: Izzy http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/comment-page-1/#comment-17652 Izzy Wed, 20 Dec 2006 01:46:48 +0000 http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/#comment-17652 My sister used to call her late MIL "Mom" and it always bugged me. Plus she hated her guts. WTF? My sister used to call her late MIL “Mom” and it always bugged me. Plus she hated her guts. WTF?

]]> By: Carla http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/comment-page-1/#comment-17645 Carla Wed, 20 Dec 2006 01:17:14 +0000 http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/#comment-17645 When Rachel was little she asked her dad if she could call him Mitch, as that is what her friends called him. He gathered her up and said, "No, I wouldn't like that, because you are the only one that can call me daddy". And I have never heard her call him anything other than daddy. heavy sigh When Rachel was little she asked her dad if she could call him Mitch, as that is what her friends called him. He gathered her up and said, “No, I wouldn’t like that, because you are the only one that can call me daddy”. And I have never heard her call him anything other than daddy. heavy sigh

]]> By: Pattie http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/comment-page-1/#comment-17642 Pattie Wed, 20 Dec 2006 01:08:40 +0000 http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/#comment-17642 I asked my in laws right up front what they preferred...thank God it was their first names, cuz I wouldn't have felt comfortable calling them Mom and Dad. I already had parents for God sakes.... But I remember growing up my parents called their in-laws (on both sides) Mom and Dad, and seemed perfectly comfortable doing so. I asked my in laws right up front what they preferred…thank God it was their first names, cuz I wouldn’t have felt comfortable calling them Mom and Dad. I already had parents for God sakes….
But I remember growing up my parents called their in-laws (on both sides) Mom and Dad, and seemed perfectly comfortable doing so.

]]> By: tori http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/comment-page-1/#comment-17631 tori Tue, 19 Dec 2006 23:37:32 +0000 http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/#comment-17631 I still don't know what to call my in laws and I have been married 11 years! They want me to call them mom and dad, and I can't do it. Because they told me to call them mom and dad, I feel strange calling them by their first names. If I *have* to say their name to get their attention, I do use their first name, but I usually try to avoid calling them anything. I still don’t know what to call my in laws and I have been married 11 years! They want me to call them mom and dad, and I can’t do it. Because they told me to call them mom and dad, I feel strange calling them by their first names. If I *have* to say their name to get their attention, I do use their first name, but I usually try to avoid calling them anything.

]]> By: theotherbear http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/comment-page-1/#comment-17629 theotherbear Tue, 19 Dec 2006 23:36:23 +0000 http://mothergoosemouse.com/2006/12/18/some-things-are-sacred/#comment-17629 My husband doesn't call my mum or dad anything. They would love him to call them mum and dad, and actually my parents do alot more for him than his mom does. But he feels uncomfortable about it. I suggested he call them by their first names instead but he doesn't want to draw attention to the fact he's not calling them mum and dad. So he does the same thing one of the other commenters does, waits for them to look at him to speak! Ha! I don't need to worry about it as my in-laws live overseas and don't speak my language anyway so when I do see them (rarely), communication is somewhat reduced to smiles and nods. So much easier all round, I recommend this solution to everyone! My husband doesn’t call my mum or dad anything. They would love him to call them mum and dad, and actually my parents do alot more for him than his mom does. But he feels uncomfortable about it. I suggested he call them by their first names instead but he doesn’t want to draw attention to the fact he’s not calling them mum and dad. So he does the same thing one of the other commenters does, waits for them to look at him to speak! Ha!
I don’t need to worry about it as my in-laws live overseas and don’t speak my language anyway so when I do see them (rarely), communication is somewhat reduced to smiles and nods. So much easier all round, I recommend this solution to everyone!

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