Comments on: Sexual harrassment

By: Sexual Harrassment

Sexual Harrassment — Sun, 14 Jan 2007 02:22:40 +0000

If only more mother’s and society in general taught girls that sexual harrassment is not just something that happens it is unexceptable

By: I am a Milliner's Dream, a woman of many "hats"...

I am a Milliner's Dream, a woman of many "hats"... — Tue, 04 Oct 2005 23:59:00 +0000

Great post and good reminder that no one should be treated with disrespect or have their work/livelihood or safety depend on putting up with crap.

By: Mother GooseMouse

Mother GooseMouse — Tue, 04 Oct 2005 14:08:00 +0000

Thanks for all the good comments.

Nancy and WW – you’re absolutely right that such intimidation is not limited to men. Excellent point.

EVI – I would be honored if either one or both of my daughters attended Barnard. And you make an excellent point that marriage/children do not figure prominently in the hard numbers, yet so many women – consciously or not – still feel that it is a choice between career or family.

By: east village idiot

east village idiot — Tue, 04 Oct 2005 12:38:00 +0000

I just helped launch a program at Barnard called the Initiative for Women in Leadership. It
is a program that our female student body can enroll in to train to become leaders in the financial and goverment
service centers.

Have your daughters come to Barnard.

In the meantime, I don’t like to think that my tax money is being spent paying an asshole to harass a hard working female officer. We are the generation that was raised to have the same professional expectations and ambitions as men –
but when we get out there – it’s plain to see that there is MUCH work to be done – and fights to be fought
for your daughter’s sake.

Did you know that there are only one or two women who head up any corporations listed on the Fortune 400. And look how poorly we are represented in public office. Here is the almighty clincher – statistically it makes no difference if you are a mother or a woman who has no children – women still aren’t getting into positions of power.

everyone deserves the chance to achieve and the choices that come with that achievement.

By: LVTwinGrins

LVTwinGrins — Tue, 04 Oct 2005 08:06:00 +0000

You rock for not letting that a$$ get away with those kind of comments. I think a lot of men will preface that kind of comment with the “I’m sure you’ll report me for saying this” kind of thing to make it all seem like a joke… and not many people are brave enough to call them on it. Thanks for sharing your story.

By: CarpeDM

CarpeDM — Mon, 03 Oct 2005 23:50:00 +0000

What a jerk. I am just steaming. Quite glad you don’t have to deal with him anymore.

By: oktree

oktree — Mon, 03 Oct 2005 21:59:00 +0000

Thanks for sharing.

By: jess

jess — Mon, 03 Oct 2005 02:40:00 +0000

great post on an important and often uncomfortable topic. Sucks that you had to deal with that . . . but thanks for sharing.

By: Windfall Woman

Windfall Woman — Mon, 03 Oct 2005 01:46:00 +0000

Thank you for sharing on behalf of all the women harassed by males (or females) in authority. I have had a stomachful of this being in a male dominated workplace. I actually had a Director lean over her desk and say to me, “Now, you know how these men are……” I could have smacked her upside the head. I responded, “No, what I know is how they SHOULD be.” It still gets my ire up.

By: Nancy

Nancy — Sun, 02 Oct 2005 14:58:00 +0000

Thank you for sharing. That type of bullying is so hard to deal with, especially when it comes from a superior officer or supervisor. Unfortunately, I’ve experienced similar bullying (albeit with no sexual innuendo) from a former boss as well — this one being a female boss. It built up so subtly over time, and was so hard to explain to anyone else (she did it carefully so as not to be detected), that I was left feeling helpless about how to stop it.

I have realized in time that some people must use these types of techniques to give themselves power by bringing others down. In my case, I think my former boss had serious self-esteem issues and found herself “threatened” by my knowledge and positive relationships with other staff members, so she’d find tiny ways to cut me down. Over time it was too much and I left the organization. I can’t understand how people like this are rewarded with supervisory positios. It’s one of the most successful ways to inject a poisonous atmosphere into te workplace.